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Do I Have to Forgive Terrorists?

Last week I spoke on the topic of forgiveness at the Manhattan JCC. The Q&A followed an interactive exercise and my thoughts on two Secrets of Forgiveness. A woman in the back raised her hand. “Do we have to forgive terrorists?” she asked. As I began my response, a mutual friend nudged her. “Tell her…

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Waiting, Anxiety, Finding Peace & Lag B’Omer

Waiting for G-dot On a sand road that snaked away from the Drakensburg Mountains, I once saw an African thorn tree.  The branches spread open like an umbrella.  Its blackened thorns poked angry exclamation marks into the sky!  To my childhood eyes, it seemed the tree was waiting.  But whether for rain to give life…

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The Silent Koan of a Holy Kohen

The Article that Lead to a Profound Interaction between Rabbi Simon Jacobson and Leonard Cohen By Simon Jacobsons (This article was written by the wise and sagacious Rabbi Simon Jacobson. It spurred an as yet unpublished profound written conversation between him and Leonard Cohen. I thank him for the permission to reprint. Discover more of…

Meadow

Transformation Through Non-Being

Why Small is the New Big I’m So ‘Umble  Do you remember Uriah Heep? He’s the arrogant creep in David Copperfield who consistently proclaims, “I’m so ‘umble!” He captures our imagination because the struggle to rid ourselves of ego and self-consciousness is fraught with challenge and contradiction. You don’t simply slam-dunk the ego through a…

Ambition

Transformation Through Ambition

Do you remember The Little Engine that Could? It’s the story of an upbeat engine that saves the day when a long train needs to be pulled over a high mountain. Larger trains refuse the job for various reasons. The small engine is asked to take on the challenge and agrees. Chugging the phrase, “I-think-I-can-I-think-I-can,”…

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Transformation Through Balance

  An editor once told me, “Great writing should read like a hot knife through butter.” What an analogy! The author has to work the text so that the ideas flow seamlessly. The form and function must become one entity. Sure you can leave the reader intellectual or emotional work to do in processing the…

Hakhel

Song with a Story

Inspiring Stories Surrounding a Soulful Song I heard the story of the soulful melody (or niggun  in Hebrew) from Rabbi Eli Silberstein of Ithaca New York, reprinted her with his permission and told in his words. The song is called “The Wallach of Reb Notteh of Pahar.” It is sung by Reb Shmuel Betzalel Althaus, a legendary…

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Mother-in-Law Daughter-in-Law Relationship Survey

The mother/daughter-in-law relationship is notoriously (likely because it is innately) challenging. I’ve prepared this survey so you can tell me about your personal experience. I’ll be using your feedback for an article on the topic. Your input is completely anonymous. Join the conversation and answer the 5 short questions. Thanks! Loading…

Fear

Transformation Through Fear

It happened on a Saturday night. My close friend and I had been out for the evening and were returning to my apartment. When I pulled up in front of my building, there was a parking spot directly opposite the entrance. Not bad for New York! She needed to make a phone call so I…

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Transformation Through Love

It’s a memory I’ll never forget. Maybe I was eleven. As part of a group, we were taken to an orphanage. To call it bare would be an understatement. My memories are fuzzy but the leitmotif was of concrete. In an open area outside the building, children milled around without speaking. There were no toys…